Very few people I’ve spoken to over the years have heard of this problem but my biggest worry was being made to look different from all the other boys.

Having it done as an adult very painful but at least it was my decision and I had a sensitive anaesthetist who put an epidural line in so for 24 hours I felt nothing from the waist down.

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Mac

Thanks for sharing a very painful story. You managed to survive humiliations that would cause most people to go straight over a cliff. you must have been a very strong boy inside.

Many hugs for you and more for your younger self.
Scottie

I think the problem stemmed from the fact that in my childhood we simply weren’t people and as such werenever listened to or taken seriously.

As you say it’s now gone completely the other way but they still don’t protect children, they just end up accusing innocent parents while still missing the overt signs that someone else is committing acts of abuse.

The simple answer is, start listening to children and treat them as real people with real feelings.

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Mac

but now, things have swung so far the other way, that it’s gotten quite dangerous for parents. our youngest was born extremely tongue tied. he had his first clip when he was only a few hours old, as it impeded his ability to nurse or cry. six months later they had to snip him again. so now his tongue is “normal” but they told us his tongue muscles would be very weak and it would muck up his ability to speak. fast forward to his kindergarten days, and one of the teachers wanted to turn in my hubby for child abuse, sexual child abuse! all because they didnt even look at the medical paperwork we turned in, which clearly explained his physical issues. she claimed the only way his speech could be so poor was because of mental trauma!

so on one hand, most of the time childrens mental health needs are ignored. and innocent parents are accused while guilty ones keep abusing, there is no god

A “bastard” because he doesn’t have a daddy like all the other kids?

I knew I really needed the circ as soon as wanking entered my life but neither of my parents would even discuss matters like that with me by then so I suffered until I was free to make my own choice.

Not just like this but because of being left-handed, er, having red hair, er, being Catholic or Irish in English protestant land – even which area a boy came from ‘born on the wrong side of the tracks’ or in my friends’ case ‘living in a Council House’ particularly as a pupil in a private school.

And for the record I was also circed as an adult and completely by my own choice.

You’re absolutely right on all counts. The last thing kids of my generation, particularly boys, expected or got was any form of courtesy or privacy. Personal dignity was a completely alien concept to us.

Yes, even allowing for the fact that it was 1963, to miss such an obvious sign of emotional stress having not found a physical problem is really inexcusable. So much easier to look away.

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Malcolm

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Daniel