Comments on: Who is Old Midhurstian?

By: Old Midhurstian

Old Midhurstian — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 09:33:46 +0000

Thank you and welcome to Old Midhurstian
I’d agree that changed rather than ruined is probably an accrate assessment. The abuse itself was a disturbing experience for a 10 year old and 3 years was a long time to suffer. The real problem was the damage done to my relationship with my stepfather which quickly became physically abusive with violent punishments and almost constant criticism.

I look forward to reading your comments as you make the journey through my bizarre childhood and adolescence

Mac

By: Gurney Nutting

Gurney Nutting — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 07:59:38 +0000

We appear to have a lot in common, excpet my experience was with a teacher, and not a close peer. I would not say it ruined my life; rather, it changed its direction fundamentally. Certainly, I would say it did nothing to improve it.

I look forward to reading more of your blog, and wish you a gentle journey as you conduct your mental archaeology. G =]

By: Old Midhurstian

Old Midhurstian — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 15:06:43 +0000

Thanks, Scottie. You’ll be in my blogroll in a few minutes

All the best
Mac

By: Scottie

Scottie — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 15:04:27 +0000

Hello Mac. This is my first time to your site. Congratulations to you and your partner. He does well on his Law PhD. Ron and I are going on 20 years together. I hope your book helps you to work through the dark places the mind can take us. I look forward to reading more of your older post and to being a daily reader of your blog.

Best wishes,
Scottie

By: oldmidhurstian

oldmidhurstian — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 23:11:47 +0000

And I’ve added you to mine

Love
Mac

By: oldmidhurstian

oldmidhurstian — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 23:05:27 +0000

I’m pleased and flattered, I really mean that. Thank you biki

By: biki

biki — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 23:02:44 +0000

I love your “voice” and will be back. Am planning on adding you to my blog roll. If you are not comfortable with that let me know, and I’ll take your addy down.

Biki

By: oldmidhurstian

oldmidhurstian — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 13:09:54 +0000

It’s a real comfort to me as well, too many times over the years I’ve thought that I was the only one. Somehow being the cleverest boy in the school was absolutely no compensation for the ruin of my life.

Thankfully I’m well past the potential suicide days of my late teens and early twenties but I’m constantly dismayed that this stuff still rules me so thoroughly. Hopefully finishing & publishing the book will draw a line under some of the worst parts.

By: Micky

Micky — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 12:53:32 +0000

Now that I’ve read that I understand better where you’re coming from. You realise that I was born in May ’53, don’t you?

You also realise that after about eight years together Pete and I made our Civil Partnership last year too.

Lots of bits of It’s Getting Better and Kieran’s Kingdom piece together bits and aspects of my and our lives. I guess Smutty Stuff is an example of my determination to try to succeed, despite the odds.

I’m pleased to have found the companionship of a fellow sufferer from the land in which we both grew up and who has also tried to make the best of it since.