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A new blog venture

Posted in Abuse, Survival on Oct 26th, 2010

Leaving The Grey Room is a new blog about surviving abuse in childhood. I’ve joined forces with Micky at It’s Getting Better and together we hope to offer support to other survivors of childhood abuse. We’ll also be compiling a selection of links to helpful sites. Over the years it’s become practice amongst certain professionals [...]

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A big step forward, I hope…

Posted in Abuse, Counselling, Survivor on Oct 5th, 2010

I like cheering up my GP; it makes the day better for both of us. Today I told him that I want to be referred to a psychologist for counselling and was rewarded with a big smile and the cry “at last!”. With the growing awareness of the lifelong effects of childhood abuse has come [...]

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Why such an angry little boy?

Posted in Abuse, Anger, Childhood, Depression on Sep 18th, 2010

It was recently suggested in a comment that I seem to have been a somewhat difficult child, prone to temper tantrums. To a certain extent that’s true but isn’t entirely fair to my young self. I was, by nature quite a sweet tempered boy with a very lively sense of fun and a penchant for [...]

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This is what I was talking about…

Posted in Abuse on Sep 15th, 2010

Thanks to a Tweet from Dave Gorman I discovered this article on the Channel 4 website. I’ve marked in red a short passage that my parents, were they still alive would find horrible resonant. Perhaps they’d begin to understand what happened to their little boy. A Channel 4 News investigation reveals that more than half [...]

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A statement…

Posted in Abuse, Childhood, Church on Sep 13th, 2010

I don’t tend to invoke politics or religion here on the Old Midhurstian Blog but I feel the need to make a point about the forthcoming Papal visit to the UK and the issue of clerical abuse. It’s very easy to get sucked in to the media furore surrounding the increasingly distressing revelations of systematic [...]

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Reflections…

Posted in Abuse, Reflecions, Sorrow on Aug 12th, 2010

In a field, not far from our house there was a pond. Actually it was a bomb crater which had been created when a plane was forced to jettison it’s payload during World War II; local wisdom was that it had been a Luftwaffe bomber. We were under the strictest instructions to be careful around [...]

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Questions and maybe some answers…

Posted in Abuse, Mental Archaeology, Questions on Jul 23rd, 2010

My post about the unpleasant incident when I lost my virginity at the age of 10 sparked a chain of thought and some questions. Given the traumatic nature of the experience why didn’t I simply go to my Mum and tell her what had happened? There’s one very shallow and unconvincing answer which is that [...]

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Odd facts about Malcolm, number 9 on the list…

Posted in Abuse, Mental Archaeology, Pain, Rape on Jul 19th, 2010

Despite the horrendous number of drugs I’m still taking I’ve decided it’s time to get back to writing. I was tempted to pass over number 9 in my list and go straight to number 10 but then I remembered why I started this blog. The purpose of writing about my childhood and teenage years is [...]

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Eradicating one legacy of an unhappy childhood…

Posted in Abuse, Bullying, Memories, Mental Archaeology, Pain on May 13th, 2010

Sorry, but the misadventures of a confused 14 year old are going to have to go on hold for a day or so. There’s a story that needs to be told because the residual anger it’s causing is getting in the way of just about everything. This isn’t a memory that’s suddenly sprung up in [...]

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I invite all opinions on this important issue…

Posted in Abuse, Church, Faith on Mar 29th, 2010

I am, as you know, not afraid of controversy and so I’m taking a brief sabbatical from my usual introversion to address an issue that I find deeply troubling and to which I would like some honest answers. Before I start I would like to make it clear that I do not mock faith and [...]

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